LIFESTYLE | Selfish Years

“Your 20’s are your ‘selfish’ years. It’s a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground.” — Kyoko Escamilla

One can not tell me how true this is. So much is put into perspective when you think about this. As a twenty-three year old, fresh graduate, trying to complete her dreams, I am dealing with this. I am selfish. I can and will admit it with no shame. I have no shame in supporting myself and making sure that my dreams come true. My dreams are my biggest priority. My happiness is my biggest priority.

I was hit with reality this morning. I was hit with the fact that people expect me to live a certain way and if it doesn’t please them then they don’t like it and make a issue of it. They find that life isn’t fair to them so why should it be fair to me? I don’t like this but I see them being selfish like myself. I don’t expect a lot out of people to be honest. That might be one of my many flaws. I don’t expect a lot because I don’t want to be disappointed. I don’t understand why it’s expected of me to live my life the exact same. People change and it’s not realized. I have changed. I have matured.

Selfish ۞ lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. Why do we see it as a negative thing? I am concerned with myself more than anything else and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. I love myself. I’m happy. I want to live and cherish my life the way I want. I don’t want people to dictate how I live and if they disapprove, they dislodge themselves from your life. I don’t do bad things, I’m laid back and chill. 

People cannot dictate my life. They cannot expect things of me that no one else expects. Be happy for me. Be a friend. That’s the thing. I can’t compare to your situation so explain it to me. Don’t assume I know. I don’t know, maybe I’m just rambling but I feel like I deserve to be happy for me. I deserve to do things for me. This is a time before I’m tied down and I want to enjoy it.

My advice to everyone is to be selfish. It’s your time. This is your time to explore and jump into things. Don’t let anyone persuade you from anything. You can do whatever you put your mind to. Trust me on this. I went from reserved and quiet to outgoing and carefree in a year because my opinion and my family’s opinion is all that matters about me.

Other people can’t understand or see your vision, they can just listen. They can’t put it together so don’t take what they say seriously. Let them stick to their own thing. Your vision is your baby. It’s what you want to do. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks as long as you’re happy. Your happiness is your priority, don’t push it to the side for other people. 

Let your vision take over you and run your life. An idea can lead to many great things. You are great. We all are great in so many ways. 

P.S. Got bestie tattoos with Kelsea. We got Crosses, representing each of our relationships with the Lord and our faiths. I love it.



  1. July 3, 2015 / 4:21 pm

    I wouldn't necessarily call it selfish, but I can understand your point of view. We have to do things for ourselves, it's a sure thing nobody else would do it… I'm glad you're focusing on your goals, and aspirations! x

  2. July 4, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    Love that quote! And I completely agree and identify with this entire post, these are the years we have to chase our dreams and do things for ourselves. I'm embracing that "selfishness".

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