Currently Reading | Saint Anything
Currently Listening to | Put It On Me remix, Ja Rule
Currently Grateful For | Good people
Currently Watching | Grey’s & HTGAWM
Currently Loving | Stuffed Bell Peppers
Life is full of lessons and sometimes, you just have to take what you are handed. It’s been a month of realizations over on Brittnee Island. You know sometimes you just have to take a moment and think on all of the things going on and it just hits you, that moment when things start to add up and you see what’s negatively affecting you. Those moments and lessons can suck because there are some things that we don’t want to admit to ourselves but we have to if we want to be real.
If you feel some type of way, you need to speak on it.
Not going to lie, I’ve always been a person that bottles everything up and walks away from conflict. I’m not saying telling someone how you feel is a confrontation but that’s how I used to look at it. I used to avoid it and just keep things to myself, rant to myself, and just try to ignore the problem. I’ve realized the problem doesn’t go away unless it’s handled. I took that step this month and pointed out when things bothered me or made me mad because a problem can’t be solved if it keeps repeating itself with no solution. Honestly, it feels good because there’s communication on both sides and an understanding of what we do to irritate each other. Not only in my personal relationships but my relationships in the professional world or social world have received my opinion because there are moments when it is really needed. Speak on it. Speak loud.
Empower those around me.
I’m really good at giving compliments and trying to make a person feel good about themselves. I don’t know why probably because I was stuck in a toxic relationship in high school where I was consistently ragged on. I think that’s why I do what I do. I don’t want anyone to feel any less than what they are. I’ve come to realize that empowering people are a good thing. I’m all about building a community rather than live in competition. Why compete when I can empower a person and be associated with a good person? It’s not a responsibility but it is my thing. I’m all about supporting and pushing someone to realize their potential, do the same for me and we’re officially best friends.
Don’t make time for people that aren’t making time for you.
It’s simple. I learn it the hard way every single time. It always baffles me when my friends that live out of state make so much time for me when they visit and I do the same because I haven’t seen their faces and I like their faces. On the other hand, I have best friends in the state that I’ve realized only reach out when they’re bored or want to rant about something or know what’s going on in my life. Basically, they want their monthly dose of Brittnee and that’s not going to fly with B anymore. It sounds like I’m upset but I’m not — I’m happy to weed these people out and realize the people that are constantly texting me about silly things are the people that want to see me and the people that make time for me no matter what. I need people that are willing to meet me half-way and luckily, I’m meeting those people now.
Pray long and hard when you need the answers.
Goodness, I can’t tell you how much I value my relationship with the Lord and my faith. No matter what I have a dialogue with the man above and I know I’m going to be alright at the end of the day. September was one of those months where I just had to sit down and talk it out, figure it out. I asked about my purpose and what I was going to do in the years to come. Let’s just say I have an answer and he’s helped me figure it all out. I will always advocate for prayer and turn to God when you need some reassurance or someone to talk to that will listen. Some people turn away from talking about their faith but I’m really proud of how far I’ve come and can only imagine how much further I have to do. I won’t shy away from talking about my faith because I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me — if you don’t like it, you don’t have to stay.
Don’t be too absorbed with my significant other.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned from high school and through friends, it is to never become so absorbed in my boyfriend that I don’t make time for my friends. Like yes, everyone gets it that we’re together but that doesn’t mean I need to spend every waking moment with the guy. Sure, some people are so in love and need to be attached all the time and there’s nothing wrong with that but I can’t freeze out my friends. I refuse to be that person that ignores a friend’s need. Let’s be real, who am I going to complain about him to anyways? Exactly. It’s good to be happy and blessed to know such a person but I won’t forget the other people that have been by my side and built me up when I was feeling down. Love you, friends.
Life is happening and there’s nothing you can really do about it. I can’t do anything but work for what I want and be happy that I’m still here. Life is only as dreadful as you let it be, don’t wallow on sad stuff ya dig? I can’t tell you how much I used to wallow a year ago but here I am and I’m happy. I have a puppy. I have a great support system. My family is always around. My best friends are happy and healthy. I have a good job and I love my blog. Life can throw some curveballs and there’re some strikes that might pop up so you better take a swing or two. I can’t wait to see my blog evolve throughout the rest of this year and I can’t wait to chat with you all.
How’s life treating you?