I feel like a big motivation in movies, television shows, books, and many more things focused on proving people wrong. It providing a competitive edge to things and making the protagonist look like they have to go through this battle of proving to everyone that they are worthy. Great storyline, where haven’t we seen it? In my opinion, that’s a terrible motivation tactic. Why? Well, I’ve tried this tactic and at the end of the day, what do you get out of it? You get respect and that might be great but do you really need a doubters respect? I don’t think you do. The people that matter the most will never be against you, they might challenge you but they won’t be against you.
Don’t focus on proving people wrong, focus on proving yourself right, got it? Let me repeat that, focus on proving yourself right. That’s what you need to do because you should want to be better and you should want to grow and challenge yourself. That’s what is important. It’s not that you have to prove other people wrong, it’s that you have to prove to yourself that you can do it and that you are right.
Competing with others can drive you insane, it can literally make you crazy if you keep on comparing yourself to others. You have to think about the thought of trying to keep up and exhaust yourself by attempting to prove people wrong. That’s a lot of work. You are literally trying to make people see why you’re good at this or why you’re worth that, it’s really not about that. It’s about you and what you think about yourself. It’s about your approval and evaluating if you are happy with what is going on in life. Who are you truly trying to please? Don’t have a long list of people and don’t let those people dictate over whether or not you’re succeeding in life.
Let’s focus, though, let’s focus on why you should be focusing on yourself and proving yourself right. Just remember, you’re the one who has to live with the consequences and you’re the one who is going to be happy, sad, mad or a plethora of emotions. You are on your own level and can’t no one take that from you unless you let them. Rise up, do you. The person that has to be happy with your decision at the end o the day has to be you.
Here we go, remember these four things.
Focus on your brand
Identify your purpose. Identify what you want to do in life. Invest in yourself and the brand you want to present to people. You want to prove yourself right because you are what matters in the end. I know people will talk about trying to up one and another but that shouldn’t be the point. If you are focusing on your brand, you are focusing on yourself and what you want to accomplish. The one thing you can do is hold yourself accountable to the guidelines of your brand. You don’t need to compare yourself to other people because everyone’s journey is different. Figure out your meaning and figure out what you want to do and do it — don’t let anyone else’s accomplishments, doubts, or failures hold you back from prospering.
Put in the work
This is important — focus on the work that you are outputting. It’s not for anyone but yourself at the end of the day. You are working on things that will establish you and your brand. Don’t let anyone discourage the work that you doing because they aren’t putting in that work. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone that doesn’t understand where you are coming from or trying to understand where you are coming from. There are always going to be people that have opinions and you have to learn to ignore them. The hate will only take them so far — rise up and rise above it. At the end of the day, remember the work you are putting in and all that you will and can accomplish. Do you, focus on your work. Lift yourself up.
Write down your goal check-list
One thing that is helpful for people is doing a goal checklist. Keep those goals to yourself whether they are monthly or weekly goals and just share overall goals. Don’t let people in on something that wouldn’t understand. Don’t let people in on goals that will give them a reason to cast doubt. Write down your goals to keep yourself in check. Once you write things down, it’s like giving your word in a way — only if that’s how you want to view things. For my own preference, I write down my weekly goals and monthly goals so that I can break down my monthly goals into smaller goals that make them more achievable.
Be thankful for the supporters/advocates
These are the people that are going to always be happy for you, truly happy for you. They’re the ones rooting for you even if they don’t know what’s going on. They elevate and pray for you, let these people in but don’t be determined to make them happy. There are people that want to take away your joy and those aren’t your friends, they can’t take that joy. That’s where proving other people wrong is going to bring you down, step away from that. Remember that you are up and that you are proving yourself right. Your supporters and advocates are not going to make you feel bad or bring you down, they are going to have a good response at the end of the tunnel. Talk about how happy you are with these people, you can identify these people if they reciprocate happiness for you. Appreciate these people. They won’t kill your vibe.
Are you still with me? I hope so because you have to believe in yourself and know that you shouldn’t be trying to please anyone in life. You start to realize that people’s opinions and ideas don’t matter when they’re coming for your life or lifestyle. these people will inflict their thoughts on what you’re doing but they’ll never truly understand because you’re on two different levels. Work on proving yourself right, believe in yourself. Don’t doubt yourself because that’s giving in, you have a lot to offer the world and you have a lot to yourself — if you’re happy with what you are doing, you are off to a good start. Prove yourself right before you prove anyone else wrong.